May 22, 2006
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Breakup
My sister's boyfriend broke up with her last night because she's a Christian and he's not. I'm really sad because I really liked this guy a lot. I was supportive of their relationship, even though they disagreed on faith issues. Why? He treated her well, like she should have been treated. He was really nice and respectful to her. I'm sure my sister is devastated. Please pray for her, if you get the chance. Thanks, Pete.Should Christians only date Christians?Speaking of relationships, I found a strange one here...Just married in Malaysia: groom 33, bride 104
Muhammad Noor Che Musa with his wife Wook Kundor. Kuala Lumpur, May 2 (AP): A 33-year-old man in northern Malaysia has married a 104-year-old woman, saying mutual respect and friendship had turned to love.
It was Muhammad Noor Che Musa’s first marriage and his wife’s 21st, according to The Star newspaper which cited a report in the Malay-language Harian Metro tabloid.
Muhammad, an ex-army serviceman, said he found peace and a sense of belonging after meeting Wook Kundor, whom he said he initially sympathised with because she was childless, old and alone, the report said.
“I am not after her money, as she is poor,” Muhamad reportedly said. “Before meeting Wook, I never stayed in one place for long.”
Comments (18)
In some ways that is sad... esp. if its the sister I am thinking about... He really is a great guy, but it is also VERY important that your sister and him share the same faith. scripture tells us not to be unequally yoked. It is not a place anyone should be in. I am sad for her loss (and his) but ultimatly, it is a very wise decision. I am esp. suprised that he broke up with her, shows his respect for her.
alright i'll pray for her. What wow thats pretty surprising how a 33 year old man would marry a 104 year old women?? :wha: The women has been already married 21 times?! why would she stay with this lose? Maybe this is just to get public recognition before the old women passes out after saying "I Do"
Its rough as humans dealing with those issues and all the emotions with it, but God knows best. isa.55.8-9
We never know about the future anyway.
The article is very strange.
sometimes and sometimes not. so I am saying, "yes and no"
depends on the people.
trevor and i are talking about you on his blog.
You know my stand on the issue, I'm pretty sure. So yeah, I've been well... things are finally starting to take shape around here I think. Are you in town this weekend?
Hey Pete, I am sorry to hear about Lauren. We should know that God has better plans for Lauren. The guy that will be right for her is out there somewhere. I know it. I had my heart broken nearly a year and a half ago by some guy who kept on saying he liked me, was going to take me out sometime, but you know what it never happened. It would have been a long distance relationship if anything did happen. I believe God had better plans for me. It took me almost nine whole months to recover from that heartbreak. I found someone this past October and I could not be any happier with the guy I am currently dating. Him and I went through some of the same things in our lives and we believe that is how we are able to understand each other. I keep on praying for my current relationship and if God wants me to marry him someday, I will be just be patient with God's timing. Tell Lauren though I say hello and I will be praying for her.
Yes, I think it's very important for a couple to share the same faith, it would create a lot of difficulties in the future for them if they do not. Who wouldn't want to date someone that they could be intimate on a spiritual level with? It's important for me at least.
from personal experience, i've been the most hurt by Christians. I really believe in the quote Justin uses on his xanga by Professor Currie "Sometimes in trying to be spiritual we forget to be human."
Well, there is the thing about being "unequally yoked." In the long run, it may be the best thing, even though it's sad. Will pray for your sis.
RYC: Before last week I never voted for anyone, not even Taylor. So, it wasn't me!
sick....just....um....sick... I dont know if you should marry an old lady just cause you love and respect her....maybe take her as your mother, but marry her??!!
also, about the Christian non-christian marrage thing. I really dont think that you can ever be fully satisfied if your partner does not have the same loving fellowship with Jesus. I think you can love them, I think you can have a good marrage, I just dont think you can have a perfect Jesus included one....But, I also don't know, Im bad with the relationship thing.
side note, if that guy was so loving and caring for your sister, why did he break up with her because of a spiritual ideal? :nono:
I will pray for your sis, I think that you should be happy, if this guy did something idiotic like that, how bad would he have turned out?
thanks for the comment.
I feel for any healthy relationship christians should only date christians. For anyone planning for marriage, christians tryign to date someone who is not a christian in hopes of turning them into one only brings trouble. I had a friend who dated someone who wasn't a christian and had the plan to turn them into a christian and well, no happy ending there, they ended up breaking up because they were two very different people. The mind set of a christian, verses the mind set of someone who is not are usually on two extremely different levels. I'm not saying there is no hope for those people who date people who dont' follow there faith, but the stress to keep it together forms to be much much greater.
I think it's important to have the same religious beliefs.
Yeah, definitely next week. It's good food at a VERY good price, hehe. I won't see ya at game night this week, I'll be on my way to Iowa - and Sam informed me last night that they won't be having it June 2nd because they'll be in Ohio for a wedding.
I will keep your sister in my prayer...:) please don't think too much and have a good day Pete...may God bless...
wow lookie at all these teeny boppers. you know in five years they will be of age!
i think christians should only date christians. if you dont have the same beliefs then it gets so much harder. Its hard enough to make a relationship work without extra stuff to fight about. God even says that He should be the foundation of a relationship (and of everything else). I dated a methodist and even that got way too complicated.
Yup. I'm gonna stay closed-minded on this one. If a Christian is strong in his or her faith, dating a non-Christian will be so very hard in so many ways. 1. Just think: You want to spend eternity with the person you're in love with, right? Well, if he's not a Christ follower, you won't. 2. Different world views. Different views on wife/husband relationships, child-rearing, money... 3. Spiritual life is so important for bonding. If you don't share it, you're going to be sad and lonely, and you chance turning to someone else to fill that void, which leads to affairs, on either of your parts. Maybe in some cases it coudl work out, or you could get lucky and convert your person, or the faith could not be an issue. But I think that if it isn't an issue for your relationship, then faith isn't a huge part of your life. I tried it. It failed misreably, and he kept hanging over my head that "as long as I stayed with him, he might someday become a Christian..."
You are a very intelligent person!